Letting the Body Speak

 Once the truth surfaced,

my body responded.

The pain intensified—
sharp, relentless, overwhelming at times—
as though decades of silence
were finally asking to be felt.

It frightened me.

Yet beneath the fear,
I sensed something different.

My body was carrying
what my voice never could.

The confusion.
The shame.
The silencing.

A child who learned to doubt herself.
Who learned that love required endurance.
Who learned to keep the peace
at the cost of her own truth.

As the pain rose,
so did the grief.

The rage I had never spoken.
The innocence lost too soon.
The little girl who tried so hard to be good
so she could be loved.

I saw how those old lessons
had followed me through life,
how I mistook control for care
and familiarity for safety.

This time, I chose differently.

I stopped explaining.
Stopped minimizing.
Stopped abandoning myself.

I let the truth be true.

The pain did not disappear,
but something loosened.

I began listening instead of fighting.

And slowly,
I learned a new language:

Love does not arrive through suffering.

Love does not punish.
Love does not ask me to disappear.

My body is still learning this.

Some days are harder than others.

But I no longer believe the pain means I am broken.

I believe it means
I am finally coming home to myself

When the Body Bears the Burden

 I wish I could say life became easier.

Instead, new challenges arrived.

My partner—the man who had become my family, my safe place—began struggling with serious health issues, including memory loss.

I sensed I was slowly losing him.

For years, fibromyalgia had walked beside me. I had learned its rhythms, learned how to live within my limits. Then one morning, without warning, I woke to severe nerve pain in both knees.

What followed was a long search for relief.

Doctors. Treatments. Therapies.

Very little changed.

The pain touched something ancient within me—a frightened child who had always feared physical suffering. Now, my body carried that fear every day.

Then, shortly before my partner died, my son moved away with his wife and children.

I knew it was time for him to build his own life.

Still, letting go broke my heart.

The years that followed were filled with caregiving, grief and chronic pain.

And then another challenge arrived.

Painful bladder syndrome.

It seemed my body, already carrying so much, was asking me to carry even more.

Yet somehow, beneath it all, I kept going.

One breath.

One day.

One surrender at a time.

The Gift I Didn’t Know I Had

 A year after Jody died,

I opened a life coaching practice.

It became another chapter in my recovery—
teaching me courage, resilience,
and the healing power of sharing my story.

Then one quiet afternoon,
something unexpected happened.

My eyes fell upon a drawing Jody had made as a child.

Wanting to feel close to her,
I gathered a few supplies
and tried to recreate it.

What began as an act of love
became a discovery.

A gift I never knew I possessed.

Over time, I created greeting cards, gift books,
and artwork that seemed to flow from somewhere deeper than skill alone.

Doors opened.

My cards appeared in beautiful nearby shops.
I sent my work to Blue Mountain Arts.

They accepted it immediately.

The opportunity was everything
I once thought I wanted.

Yet something inside me knew otherwise.

The pressure to produce,
to please,
to turn creativity into performance,
slowly drained the joy from it.

And so I chose differently.

I discovered that giving my cards away
brought me far more happiness
than selling them ever could.

In the end, the lesson was simple:

My gift was never meant to prove my worth.

It was meant to be shared.

Not for recognition.
Not for success.

But for connection,
love,
and the simple joy
of creating something beautiful.

Anchored Through the Storms

 Recovery brought me joy, clarity, and freedom.

But it did not spare me from life’s storms.

In the early years, I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue. My body often felt heavy, even as my spirit was learning how to heal.

Then came more loss.

My brother drowned in a scuba diving accident.
A few years later, my mother died from lung cancer.

Grief arrived in waves, one sorrow following another.

And still, recovery held.

Each morning became an act of faith—showing up for my son, my partner, and myself. Some days, I moved forward only an inch at a time.

Yet even in the darkest seasons, life offered small mercies:

a shared laugh,
a kind word,
a quiet walk by the sea.

Recovery taught me that sorrow and joy are not opposites.

They can live side by side.

Without knowing it, I was building something within myself—a deeper resilience, a steadier faith.

I was going to need both.

More loss would come.
More pain.

But somewhere beneath it all, I carried a quiet knowing:

I could endure.

And somehow, I would find my way forward.