Monday, October 3, 2022
There are moments when we must let go. Sometimes we choose to release our grip, and other times we are blindsided and have no choice. I've come to a place of surrender many times in my 26 years of recovery. Just this past year my son and grandchildren moved to another state. My health issues remain undiagnosed despite more than 4 years of testing and specialists. My partner broke his back, along with having cognitive issues. I've become his caretaker when he used to be my rock. My sense of safety and family feels more fragile than it's ever been. Then there's the pandemic which changed all of our lives and a fierce hurricane ripped through my area just a few days ago. Feels like a wrecking ball is demolishing what used to be. However, there is a strength and determination in me that I never knew I possessed. I believe it exists in everyone. We may not know it until we are tested. And there is always a silver lining. We should avoid feeling like a victim and instead, look for gifts that every experience is bringing us...
Sunday, October 2, 2022
This beautiful old oak tree is the reason I bought the house I live in. This view is out my front window. Having lost my daughter in 2006, this tree (I called it the "tree of life") represented that life goes on and we must rebuild again and again when tragedy interrupts our lives, sometimes in a profoundly difficult way. The tree has been a source of comfort but we just went through a horrific hurricane and as you can see, the tree has been uprooted. It not only uprooted the tree but mirrored parts of myself that once again, was being uprooted and moving me towards rebuilding my life in new ways. Perhaps my source of comfort should just be God. It's only been a couple days so I will give deep thought...
Tuesday, September 13, 2022
Friday, June 17, 2022
I’m going to be sharing some passages from my book called A Soulful Life which is available on Amazon. Here’s an example today… “We put our energy into chasing happiness when it is already in our nature to be content, grateful, peaceful… We are forced to chase external happiness when our true source of joy, which lies within us, is buried beneath our wounds.”
Wednesday, April 20, 2022
We all have a child in us who may have experienced some trauma. When there’s childhood trauma and there is no one to safely process the experience with, we have no choice but to shove it down. It’s not uncommon for people to think that the past is over and it doesn’t affect our lives today but nothing could be more false. Our trauma wounds bleed into all our relationships, all our thoughts and how we view life. We may feel victimized, abandoned, needy, angry, sad or various other feelings that we don’t understand. Have you met your little girl? Feel free to leave your comments below...
Tuesday, April 19, 2022
Sunday, April 17, 2022
Why is it so important to find your tribe of women who get you? Here's a piece of my story... For most of my life, I felt a loneliness that never seemed to go away. It started in childhood, probably a result of feeling disconnected from the other family members in the house. I was the sensitive child living in an environment that never felt safe. Then the feelings of isolation and self-preservation spilled over into my adult life. Early on, I adopted the role of being the "caretaker/codependent". The problem was that I was too wounded to know what I needed, let alone others. It's been a journey finding the missing pieces of myself. But thankfully, recovery gave me a safe place to begin to heal and in essence, no longer feeling alone...
Saturday, April 16, 2022
If you have the belief that being the "good girl" is going to keep your life from getting messy or a hall pass to avoid your life lessons, not true. Life will always surprise us. Sometimes there are unexpected joyful surprises and other times we may find ourselves lying on the cold bathroom tile floor with our hearts broken open. I thought that if I tried to always do the right thing that I would be exempt from suffering but I've since learned that it's not so. Pain and suffering has paid me a visit many times. Through pain, I've learned to gather the gifts and do my best to surrender rather than struggle. These can be an opportunity for growth. Don't let your mind play the victim story. Dig for courage and strength. Remember: YOU CAN DO THE HARD THINGS, BRAVE ONES... And that being the "good girl" is a set-up for being someone else's doormat...
Thursday, April 14, 2022
If you would like to try one of my free zoom classes, you can find me in one of my Facebook groups such as Codependent No More - Support Group for Women (To Find Click here) ... Under the guidelines in each group (there are 11), you will also see a list of all my classes which are held 3x's a day
Friday, March 4, 2022
Friday, February 25, 2022
Thursday, February 17, 2022
Have you ever stopped and got quiet enough to observe the things in your life that cause you stress? Here are a few things that I find stressful: Large crowds, loud noises, trying to fix others, getting into other peoples's business, people pleasing, worrying, pushing myself too hard, putting too much on my plate...