You transform your life by keeping your thoughts as pure as possible rather than letting your mind be a breeding ground for fear to thrive. When you catch yourself thinking negative, "surrender the thought". So often in the past I have gotten into an argument with my mind (and lost, by the way) thinking that if I scold myself for thinking poorly, it would change. But it actually it strengthens the ego's hold on you. Let go of any judgment about yourself, then correct the unholy thought by offering it to God for healing. When we surrender self-will, we are extending an invitation for God to do for us what we can not do for ourselves.