Tuesday, October 22, 2013

Real love

If we feel incomplete, we look for others to complete us.
But real love is complete.
That means no matter what the circumstances are with someone,
we accept and love them as they are, not as we want them to be.
Real love doesn't require giving too much of ourselves.
If we do, it's fear (co-dependency) revealing itself.
When we give too much, we bring an agenda into the relationship.
We're trying to get something from the other person.
We are coming from a state of lack...
a wounded part of us that feels desperate for love.
Instead of bringing our attention to the part of us that needs...
to be loved and nurtured,
we attempt to get the reassurance from others. 
Co-dependent love is not real love.
Real love has no expectations-
it doesn't seek others to fulfill it.