We have all experienced hurt in our lives. If we didn't know how to resolve the pain, it's likely that we put a wall around our hearts as a way to protect ourselves from getting hurt again. Though we may see ourselves as open, caring people, when there is a wall, you can be sure there is a guard standing near by. We will attempt to control or avoid. We will convince ourselves that there is something wrong with others. We will use judgement as our sword...
Unresolved guilt is not only a burden that we carry, but in our attempt to rid ourselves of it, we project it unto others. However, blame only makes things worse. Now that we have attacked our beloved brothers and sister, the guilt that we were already carrying, becomes even heavier. And being a in position where we have to use justification as a way to ease our conscience, only makes things messier. The way we lighten our load and clean up the mess is to forgive ourselves....