Meeting our inner child

 We all have a child in us who may have experienced some trauma. When there’s childhood trauma and there is no one to safely process the experience with, we have no choice but to shove it down. It’s not uncommon for people to think that the past is over and it doesn’t affect our lives today but nothing could be more false. Our trauma wounds bleed into all our relationships, all our thoughts and how we view life. We may feel victimized, abandoned, needy, angry, sad or various other feelings that we don’t understand. Have you met your little girl? Feel free to leave your comments below...

Learning to accept ourselves

It has taken me years to realize that the person I thought I was, was not me. It was the good little girl who just wanted everybody to be happy and who was hungry for love and acceptance. It was a set up for a lot of pain. Trying to be someone I wasn't, was exhausting. And feeling like it was my responsibility to make people happy was what lead me deeper into codependency. What about you? Do you feel safe to be you? Do you feel worthy of love without having to earn it? Feel free to leave your comments below. Would love to hear pieces of your story too...

Finding our tribe

 Why is it so important to find your tribe of women who get you? Here's a piece of my story... For most of my life, I felt a loneliness that never seemed to go away. It started in childhood, probably a result of feeling disconnected from the other family members in the house. I was the sensitive child living in an environment that never felt safe. Then the feelings of isolation and self-preservation spilled over into my adult life. Early on, I adopted the role of being the "caretaker/codependent". The problem was that I was too wounded to know what I needed, let alone others. It's been a journey finding the missing pieces of myself. But thankfully, recovery gave me a safe place to begin to heal and in essence, no longer feeling alone...

Life may not be as simple as we think

 

If you have the belief that being the "good girl" is going to keep your life from getting messy or a hall pass to avoid your life lessons, not true. Life will always surprise us. Sometimes there are unexpected joyful surprises and other times we may find ourselves lying on the cold bathroom tile floor with our hearts broken open. I thought that if I tried to always do the right thing that I would be exempt from suffering but I've since learned that it's not so. Pain and suffering has paid me a visit many times. Through pain, I've learned to gather the gifts and do my best to surrender rather than struggle. These can be an opportunity for growth. Don't let your mind play the victim story. Dig for courage and strength. Remember: YOU CAN DO THE HARD THINGS, BRAVE ONES... And that being the "good girl" is a set-up for being someone else's doormat...

Zoom Classes (Codependency, Inner Child, etc...)

If you would like to try one of my free zoom classes, you can find me in one of my Facebook groups such as Codependent No More - Support Group for Women (To Find Click here) ... Under the guidelines in each group (there are 11), you will also see a list of all my classes which are held 3x's a day

Another new book

 The new adult coloring is finished. You can find it on Amazon...