Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Letting things fall apart


There are times when we have no choice but to let things fall apart...
times when we have no control over our circumstances...
times that we grope to find some solid ground when there is none...
times when things are unraveling, changing,
and the uncertaintity feels unbearable.

The thing that starts to undo us may be illness, death, divorce,
financial troubles, the loss of a job... 

In life there is a duality whether we like it or not.
Good days, sad days, frustrating days.
Life won't be wonderful all the time.
Nothing is going to stay the same.
We will all experience pain.

As much as we may feel flattened by our circumstances,
we need to be present to the experience,
letting our hearts feel it's entirety, finding compassion...

Trying to avoid pain causes us to be more afraid
which hardens our hearts and creates a feeling of isolation.

Falling apart can be the catalyst to open us up...
to have a deeper connection with all things.

 We can't shield ourselves from the frailty of life,
but we can build a more tender relationship with it.
We can let our pain transform us,
softening our edges, expanding our hearts,
gifting us with more compassion for ourselves and others.