For years I vacillated between feeling victimized by life (I thought I had bad luck) or feeling that everything was my fault (so I strived to be perfect). When I thought there was a dark cloud hanging over me, I felt hopeless. When I thought everything was my fault, I was hard on myself. Both of these false beliefs caused me a lot of unnecessary pain. This is a perfect example of how bad my thinking used to be. Today I don't see my circumstances as good or bad, but merely opportunities to learn and grow.