Healing from co-dependency

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Here's a good question to ask yourself; what am I ready to change?

My answer is this; co-dependency. It's a painful condition to have to live with.

Years of working on it has greatly enriched the quality of my life.

And I have a good feeling about this year;

 things are going to get even BETTER yet. 

Author Melody Beattie has been instrumental in my recovery. Her wisdom has guided me.

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                                                                     Melody Beattie

Sometimes, our instinctive reaction to being in a new situation is: Don’t be yourself.

Who else can we be? Who else would you want to be? We don’t need to be anyone else.

The greatest gift we can bring to any relationship wherever we go is being who we are.

We may think others won’t like us.

We may be afraid that if we just relax and be ourselves, the other person will go away... 

We may worry about what the other person will think, but when we relax and accept ourselves, people often feel much better being around us than when we are rigid and repressed...

If others don’t appreciate us, do we really want to be around them?

Do we need to let the opinions of others control us and our behavior?

Giving ourselves permission to be who we are can have a healing influence on our relationships....We relax. The other person relaxes...

Who we are is all we can be, all we’re meant to be, and it’s enough...

                                        

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Friendship with ones self is all important,
because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.

~ Eleanor Roosevelt ~

"I'm the most important person I will ever meet"