Friday, August 31, 2012

What is intimacy?

It was funny watching these two. I wonder if they were having a lover's spat.
I've spent a lot of time thinking about intimacy and what it means. I used to believe
 that intimacy was about feeling close to someone because you got along so well with them
(and that's a good thing too). But the less I people-please these days, the more certain I am 
that intimacy is more about being yourself with people who accept you unconditionally.

I've been known to get mad, throw a tantrum or two (just ask my partner), act like a two-
 year old, say things I wish I hadn't... I am far from being perfect. But the most important
 goal is to be myself. I fear rejection as much as the next person, but I don't want to be in relationships where I have to twist myself into a pretzel to get love and approval.
Truthfully, I really like it when people are real with me. My philosophy is "I care about your
 feelings so please don't sacrifice them to make me happy. Let me be responsible for my
 own happiness and I will let you be responsible for yours".

What is your definition of intimacy? Are you comfortable being yourself? I would love to
hear your thoughts!

“About all you can do in life is be who you are.”

- Rita Mae Brown


"I will speak with graceful honesty"


  1. This gave me food for thought . . . I long held the belief that intimacy equaled sex. But as my definition of intimacy has expanded, I have come to realize that it is really about trust and feeling safe for me. The only true intimacy I have is with the people that I trust and feel safe with . . . The people I know will love me no matter what. Being able to be vulnerable, emotionally naked, that for me is true intimacy today. And I am grateful for the relationships in my life today where that exists. I love you!

  2. What good insight! You are right! And I am so grateful for you.