Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Addictive love

 
a pretty blossom from a citrus bush
the fruit from the citrus bush- in the lemon family
 
ad·dic·tion: the state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something

that is psychologically or physically habit-forming

 
 There are many things people can be addicted to...
things like TV, food, spending, gambling, drugs, alcohol...
 
Another addiction can be relationships...
choosing unhealthy people to love...
seeking approval from people who can't love back...
putting up with harmful or unacceptable behaviors.
 
Investing too much of ourselves in our children's lives,
especially when they become adults...
 can also be addictive.
Don't mistake enmeshment for "love".
 
Love is a unconditional feeling...
 that is neither restrictive or painful.
Addiction/strong attachments hurt.
 
If there is something or someone in your life that is causing you pain,
you may want to ask yourself "what am I trying to get from them"...
 or what am I afraid of losing"?

Is there a wounded part of you seeking love but you don't love yourself?
Do you have a deep seeded fear of being alone?

It is only through loving ourselves...
and trusting that we'll survive with or without someone...
 that we are truly free.

We don't want to be dependent on others to fill our needs.
If there is an empty hole in your soul ...
it can only be healed through finding love and compassion for yourself.
When you are healed, you will be free...
 and so will those you've love.
 
*****
 
 
Perfect love casts out fear.
If fear exists, then there is not perfect love...

~ A Course in Miracles ~
 

"I am free"