Accepting others

“We are like sculptors,

 

constantly carving out of others the image we long for,

 

need, love or desire, often against reality,

 

against their benefit, and always, in the end,

 

a disappointment, because it does not fit them.”  

 

― Anais Nin

 

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Another healing step in the journey

new drawings

 

For years I've neglected my own heart. There's a child in me that has a broken picker when it comes to relationships. I've been careless with where I've placed my trust. I'm not judging anyone for my mistakes. I pretended to see things the way I wanted them to be rather than how they really were and then, paid a price for my denial.

 

I'm grateful for the lessons that are helping me see myself more clearly. I see how I have been looking outside of myself for something I obviously lacked inside. My choices have merely been a reflection of what I thought I deserved. I set myself up to fall again and again.

My prayer for today is that I make good choices, listening to my heart, as well as, my intuition. As far as the child in me who's still in need of love, I will be her provider.

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Looking within

 

“...you can’t escape your skeletons in the closet.

They will always be there until you take them out...

 from behind those dusty old moth-eaten coats.

  Your exterior facade of ‘everything is alright’ only works for a little while,

 and then the cracks begin to show.

You can only hide behind yourself for so long...”  

 

Corallie Buchanan

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Saying goodbye to guilt

 

Guilt is a method we use to cause harm to ourselves. For instance if you were abused as a child and today beat yourself up with guilt over things you've done in the past, you have continued the pattern of abuse. Guilt has no purpose!!! If you refuse to accept guilt in your life, there will be no need for punishment. The abuse cycle is then broken.

 

This also means we won't be pointing fingers at others either. Instead we take responsibility for our part in every situation. We forgive those who have caused us harm just as we forgive ourselves for the things we've done to cause harm.

 

Don't give power to guilt. Let the past go. And if you make a mistake in the future, merely correct it without giving any power to judgment over it.

 

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Softening the heart

 

“an extremely sensitive area of the heart for a woman, and has plenty of opportunity to be easily bruised. When that does occur, she will put up a protective barrier to try and avoid any such pain occurring again. If this barrier isn’t dismantled fairly soon, a woman’s heart becomes accustomed to its protective barrier, and the heart shielded inside gradually becomes hardened. As women, we may be able to function like this for awhile. But there will come a time in your life where God will begin to peel away those hard layers surrounding your heart, and you probably won’t like that sensation. But you have to fight your natural instinct to run away...

 

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The road to recovery

 

“The road to healing is a rocky one, and you need to know that. 
There are times when every fiber in your body will scream out to give up. 

In these moments, God is right there with you, holding your head up,

and carrying you when you cannot walk anymore. 

Even if you are holding on with your teeth, and your knuckles are red and bleeding,

it is crucial that you still hold on. 

Don’t give up! You have too much to lose!”

 

― Coralleie Buchanan

 

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Transforming pain

 

 

I unpacked a few old projects this week hoping to inspire myself to sew again. Creating dolls was one of the ways I used to cope with emotional pain. There was a time in my life when my soul cried for help, but I didn't listen. Instead I hid my pain...

 

Eventually life forced me to get real. It was the best thing that could have ever happened. A miracle! As I began to empty out all the hurt I had shoved down into my gut, the chamber of my heart peeked open...

  

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“Behind every dancer there’s someone that broke her,

a song that moved her,

a moment that inspired her

and a dance floor that healed her.”

 

― Hope Alcocer

 

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Perception

 

The difference between
a flower and a weed
is a judgment.

~ Author Unknown

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Healing our hearts

 

It is only our minds that hold unto guilt...

 

beating ourselves up over the same mistake.

 

It's a form of self-punishment.

 

But there's another choice.

 

"Forgiveness"

 

Not only do we beat ourselves up with guilt,

 

but we project our guilt unto others through blame.

 

Practice saying three words today.

 

"I forgive everyone"

 

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The imposter

 

The mystic path is a journey of personal transformation,

and while the goal of the journey is to become our true selves,

we can only do this by letting go of who we are not.

If we wish to experience the fullness of life,

we must cut through layers of illusion that hide the truth of who we really are.

 

Marianne Williamson

 

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We must reclaim the parts of our self we have denied - the parts that cause us to feel shame, regret, guilt, anger... It is only in loving all the aspects that make up who we are, that we become free to be our true self. If we're only willing to show the world the parts we like and think others will like too, we will not live authentically. Burying the parts of our self we have judged forces us to wear a social mask. We pretend to be someone we are not. We have even fooled ourselves, thinking the imposter is us.

 

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Healing our minds

 

You transform your life by keeping your thoughts as pure as possible rather than letting your mind be a breeding ground for fear to thrive. When you catch yourself thinking negative, "surrender the thought". So often in the past I have gotten into an argument with my mind (and lost, by the way) thinking that if I scold myself for thinking poorly, it would change. But it actually it strengthens the ego's hold on you. Let go of any judgment about yourself, then correct the unholy thought by offering it to God for healing. When we surrender self-will, we are extending an invitation for God to do for us what we can not do for ourselves.

 

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Postive thinking

 new designs...playing in the glitter

 

Life changes drastically when you stop listening to your thoughts... believing everything your mind says. It is your thoughts that are creating most of your unhappiness. Fear distorts and pollutes everything it touches. In surrendering your old fearful way of thinking, you will see how truly magnificent the world really is.

 

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Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. 

Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”  

― Rumi

 

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Owning our magnificance

 

We've been taught to believe we are less than what we truly are. 

Every one of us who was born to shine brightly.

So that we may love and accept ourselves completely,

we eliminate all the ways we diminish who we are,

letting go of self-defeating behaviors like guilt and judgment.

It is only the arrogance of the wounded self that attempts to keep us small.

 

Affirmation "I am a brilliant light"

 

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A wonderful world

 

 Took these yesterday...

 

I see trees of green, red roses too
I see them bloom, for me and for you
And I think to myself, what a wonderful world.

I see skies of blue, clouds of white
Bright blessed days, dark sacred nights
And I think to myself, what a wonderful world.

The colors of a rainbow, so pretty in the sky
Are also on the faces of people going by
I see friends shaking hands, saying.. how do you do
They're really saying, I love you.

I hear babies cry, I watch them grow
They'll learn much more than Ill never know
And I think to myself, what a wonderful world

Louis Armstrong

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Worthiness

 

Anyone who believes in lack doesn't know they're sitting on a pot of gold.
Lack of love, health, and prosperity comes from a corrupted belief system.
Changing old beliefs will bring new results.
This may be difficult if you feel undeserving.
I would start with a simple affirmation "I am worthy".

 

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On the right path

 

Your thoughts have the power to create a fulfilling, joyful life...

 or one of pain and suffering.

Beliefs such as lack, mistrust, and unworthiness are some of the lies...

you may be hurting yourself with.

You were not born to think negative.

You were born with the natural ability to love yourself, others,

and your surroundings.

You lost your way, probably in childhood.

Time to get back on the path you were born to walk.

 

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